an ahh haa moment

"When I was single, I decided I wouldn't marry a man unless I could be proud if we had a son who turned out exactly like him." - Maggie Mason

I'm not sure marriage could have been put more perfectly into perspective than with that statement. As timing would have it, about 2 weeks ago when I was at home in New York, my friend Michelle and I found ourselves at a table for two with a bottle of wine in a dimly lit restaurant. Michelle is one of those friends whose friendship I'm able to step right back into regardless of the number of months that have gone by.

As we polished off the bottle of wine and I was secretly thinking we should have ordered another, our conversation inevitably led to discussing our latest dating adventures. It was at this point Michelle told me of her 'revelation.' After walking in limbo for far too long wondering, "Exactly what is this?" she had an 'ahh haa' moment of her very own. In her revelation she realized that life would in fact go on with or without a guy. That she's doing just fine on her own. And really what's the worse that would happen if a guy rejected you?

It sounds obvious enough but so many girls (and yes I can speak from personal experience on this) get hung up on being with a guy that it doesn't even matter who that guy is. They truly believe that their heart will never heal... that they'll remain alone forever, and that there isn't anything else in life that could possibly be worse than how they feel at that given moment.

While I too have been guilty of these sentiments, it is 'ahh haa moments' like the one Michelle had that realigns my perspective.